Sex Now, Talk Later (2016)
Published by Karnac
Sex matters. It is a crucial part of whom we are and what to do. So why do we police what is “normal” and what is “bizarre”? As Estela Welldon argues in
this insightful book, whenever we disapprove of others or ourselves in this
way, we close our eyes to a deeper understanding of human nature.
Dr Welldon is an internationally recognized expert on sexual diversity. As a psychiatrist, she has also worked inside prisons with sex offenders, so she is familiar with the extremes of “oddity”. Here, she uses a psychoanalytic framework with humour, insight and clarity to explore why we disapprove, and what we lose when we do. She presents us with a series of interwoven vignettes, drawn from clinical work and life experiences, which have led her to these conclusions.
Dr Welldon argues in this book that as human beings we have a responsibility to develop a much more enquiring and open mind, and to feel privileged rather than disgusted when we have access to primitive fantasies that shine light into the dark corners of minds not considered “normal”.
Be ready to live dangerously as you read these pages. The pursuit of understanding will take you deep inside the primitive and archaic origins of our present attitudes.
Sadomasochism in Art and Politics (2016)
Available on Amazon
This is an updated edition of the long out of print book Sadomasochism, with an additional chapter on the psychodynamics of torture in repressive political regimes.
Dr Estela V. Welldon contests the view that sadomasochism is an isolated ‘perversion’. Using numerous examples from literature, film, opera and other media, she undertakes an exploration of the psychodynamic aspects of sadomasochism that carries us from the writings of de Sade and von Sacher-Masoch to the contemporary underground S & M club scene. Challenging our expectations that S & M is concerned only with ‘bizarre’ activities, Dr Welldon illuminates the dynamics of power and control in everyday family life and sexual relationships. Her investigation deepens to include the downward spiral of domestic violence and child abuse, and the ‘malignant bonding’ between couples in cases such as Ian Brady and Myra Hindley, and Fred and Rosemary West.
Is sadomasochism invariably present in the victim-perpetrator cycle? Is it learned or innate? Are sadism and masochism complete opposites or do they complement one another? Are they specifically related to the genders? Dr Welldon asks these questions and many more in a fluent, thought provoking essay.